An incident I can think about that has made me a
target for prejudice within my own ethnic group is my name. Before I continue
to explain, I need to share a bit of my parents history. Both parents migrated
to the United States and were the target of many racial profiling and where
treated vary unjustly in the 70s and early 80s. They received this at work and in their vary same
neighborhood where they lived. When I was born, they wanted to name me
Francisco, a name that is commonly used in many Mexican families. Francisco is
the name of my grandfather and it is the middle name of my father. They wanted
to continue the tradition but were thinking that it may cause me problems,
mainly with acts of prejudice. My parents thought that if they named me frank,
short for Francisco, that when people would see my name like in a waiting list for school
or a job position, I would have a better chance to be selected as they thought
that if a racist person was in charge, they would not pick my name that is
associated with a Mexican.
Now to the prejudice part that I have received from
other Mexicans and Mexican Americans. All I can say is, "dammed if I do
and dammed if I don't". My parents good intent on trying to make me fit in
with Americas was a good deed on their behalf but overlooked the reaction from
other Mexicans and Latino populations. An example I can share is that some people
think that I changed my name because I was ashamed of being called a name that
is so commonly used in Mexico. They tell me to keep it real and to never deny
my roots. Some people even tell me that I am a liar and should not misread my
name on my birth certificate. Some of my close friends have called me a wannabe
whitewashed Mexican. They do not believe that the name spelled on my birth
certificate is Frank. All I know is that things like a person's name can be
tied into a person's social identity and as a professional, I must be mindful
in not to insult anyone by changing their name even if I cannot say it. The
story that Dr. Euguene Garcia told in one of this week's videos made me
remember this. I sometimes feel like his sister , Cipranita felt with the
unintential microaggression that she experienced on her first day of school
when the teacher, not being able to pronounce her name, changed it to Emily
forever. It creates thoughts of insecure feeling of which name is better. This
is not a good thing for children to experience as it can make them question
their roots.
References
Laureate Education, Inc. (2011). "In His Own Voice: Dr. Eugene Garcia" [DVD] Baltimore,
Learning MD. Author.
Frank,
ReplyDeleteIt is so sad that prejudice can have an effect on the names parents choose for their children. I understand how you feel when your friends make comments about your name and not being "mexican enough." I experience the same type of comments from my African-American friends who feel that I am stuck up because I am not in their words "ghetto" and have a diverse group of friends. At the end of the day I can only be myself and if they cannot accept me for me then maybe they shouldn't be my friends.
Thank you for sharing,
Krista
Frank,
ReplyDeleteYou are in charge of you. Friends do not put other friends down. Sometimes people are jealous and they do not know how to deal with it. You are above all that.
My brother's name is William Dewy. That was the name my grandmother had named her first who passed at birth. She told my mom to name him that. We call him Bill. He has a son, William Dewy Jr. We call him little William or Will. Now Will has a son, They named him William Dewy III. They call the baby Dieago.
We have to rise above this because this to will pass.
Sandra